I recently heard a pastors wife say the quote above and i absolutely loved it!! One of my friends asked me about a month ago to teach her how to be modest. I laughed and said just look at how your mom dresses. She said she didn't want to dress like someone twice her age. So over the past few weeks I've tried my best to give her some advice. In my opinion being modest isn't easy and it takes practice. If our heart is right we will want to dress right, but still want to dress cute and our age. And there is nothing wrong with that! I am 21 and I should look like a modest 21 year old not a 31or 41 year old. I am no professional but I thought I would write about what modesty is to me. I have no idea why I haven't done this yet considering it is a big part of my life. Well here goes: )
You make the decision about what you wear. I am not gonna sit here and write and say every girl and lady should only wear skirts and dresses. Thats not my business, nor is it your business (if you wear skirts everyday) to criticize those who don't. The sad thing is I have seen some ladies who are more modest in their pants than some of the things I've seen Christian ladies wear to church. Over the years clothes have gotten tighter and shorter. So many Christians make such a big deal about the outside and forget that it's the inside that matters most. I read 1 Samuel 16:7 today. Here is what it says, {But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but he Lord looketh on the heart.} which brings me to my next point...it says man looks on the outward appearance. The lost see what you wear but can not see your heart. How can people notice something's different about you if you look like the rest of the world? I have heard people say modesty is a heart issue and I believe that's true but let's not forget it is also a clothes issue.
It takes work. It takes trying new things and it takes learning. It also takes some sacrifice.
For those who attend Public school it is much harder to "dress for Jesus". I started out at a private Christian school where all the girls wore skirts. I had no problem with it. From 5th grade until graduation I went to public school and then went to a local college for 3 years. Modesty became more challenging. It is hard to stand out and be different when all you see is everyone else fitting in. Some people will think you are weird but dont give up, be patient and show them Jesus through not only what you wear but how you act. People notice. I promise you they notice. Eventually people will respect you for being modest. They won't necessarily understand but will respect your courage to be different.
Worldly guys will not give you the time of day! This bothered me in school, I told myself I was just as pretty as all the other girls but I wasn't notice and that hurt me. Looking back I understand why. Guys, especially high school boys do not care about what your face looks like but they do care about what the rest of you looks like. Reba Bowman says if you're not for sale, take the sign off. Don't cheapen yourself because you want attention. Dressing immodestly will get you attention but not the kind you really want.
Remember: The reason we wear clothes is to cover our bodies up. God isn't pleased when we wear booty shorts or bikinis. Instead of using clothes to show your body off, use your clothes to make you look like a lady.
Make your own style. Just because no one else wears it doesn't mean you can't. I have never understood that rule "no white pants after Labor Day"...if you wanna wear white, wear it.just do it modestly.
Look in the mirror! If something doesn't look right change it. Go get you a long $5 mirror from Walmart and look at what you look like before you run out the door. Ask yourself if Jesus would approve.
White 9 times out of 10 requires a slip and or tank top. This is why I rarely wear white...it is soo see-through and hard to keep clean! Which is something I very much dislike.
Just because it looks modest on the hanger doesn't mean it is modest for you. The same goes for how it looks on a friend. We all have different shapes and we are all different sizes.
Being modest sometimes means being alone. Like I wrote above... Others won't understand and they won't try to. Jesus notices and it makes him happy! Dress for Jesus and I promise you will get the right kind of attention from the right kind of guys.
Basic and random, i know...I will do a follow up post in the next few days. -stay tuned y'all 💕
